How to lose weight and overcome the struggle

Let’s get one thing straight.

You say you want abs. Desperately. You think if you had a flat stomach, life would be easier, right? More confident. More lovable. More in control.

You believe those abs will fix how you feel when you look in the mirror, when you dress in layers to hide your body, or when you avoid intimacy because you're afraid of being seen.

You’re between 100 and 130 pounds. You’re tiny. But you feel heavy. Not in weight—heavy in shame.And here’s the twist you weren’t expecting: You’re afraid to become the version of you who could actually feel free.

The Science Behind Your Fear (and Your Scale Obsession)

Let me explain what your brain is doing. Your brain is trying to protect you.It hates the unknown. It associates eating more or lifting weights with danger because you’ve wired it that way.You've taught your nervous system that:

• Carbs = guilt

• Rest = laziness

• Muscle = bulk

• The scale going up = failure

Even if none of that is true. Your body isn’t broken.But your wiring is stuck in survival mode.And that’s why no matter how little you eat… how much you run… how many layers you wear…You still feel like you’re never enough.

The Lie: “I Just Want to Tone”

“Toning” isn’t a magic word. You don’t tone without muscle, and you don’t build muscle without fuel. You say, “But I don’t want to get bulky.”Let me say this gently but directly: You won’t. At a weight between 100 and 130 pounds and afraid of protein, your body is fighting to survive, not sculpt. If you want to see abs, you’ll need to do something wild. You’ll need to eat more. You’ll need to lift heavy things.You’ll need to stop letting the scale dictate your self-worth.

Reverse Psychology Moment:

Keep doing what you’re doing. Eat as little as possible. Keep running on an empty tank. Keep saying you “want abs” but don’t want to lift. Keep measuring your life by a number on a scale. And in six months, you’ll be in the exact same place—if not worse.More tired. More discouraged. More invisible under baggy clothes.

Sound good?

No?

Then let’s try something radical.

The Neurological Rewire:

Your brain only changes when your actions do. You don’t get confidence from abs. You get confidence from doing hard things even when you're scared.From feeding your body like it matters.From showing up like someone who deserves to take up space.

And when your brain feels safe, your body stops fighting you.

What To Do Now

✅ Eat at least 100g of protein a day.

✅ Start strength training 5x a week. Think of it as brain work, not just body work.

✅ Throw out the scale for 30 days. Your nervous system needs a break.

✅ Wear the tight top. Show the body that you're not hiding anymore.

✅ Say this daily: "I’m not scared of growing stronger."

The abs aren’t the answer. But the version of you who gets strong enough to earn them?She’ll change your whole life. You want that girl?

Feed her. Train her. Become her.